I don’t think I made a mistake by telling you that.

Ahahaha, yes Roomie you are ‘Smoking Hawt’

“I am not adverse to let a woman tie me down or taking charge”

Oh Bob… you just made a mistake by telling me that.

A lot of guys seem to assume just because I am there they can fuck me. This seems to be the root of the so called dommies. In their expectation us girls have to be hawt and fall over as soon as they say “Let’s fuck.”

a few guys went all pissy on me when I told them NO and suggested they might invest sum effort on their looks. Of course they can’t be bothered with sumthing like that. And it’s totes not fair that I refuse them based on their looks, when they give me nuthing else to work with. Naturally it’s totes okies they asked em because imma smoking hawt.

Sex should be fun be it SL or RL and as long as all involved are on the same page everybody should have fun the way they like.

I usually enjoy my sex on equal footing, but I am not adverse to let a woman tie me down or taking charge. And exploring those sides of my sexuality have enriched my sex life. But I would never assume that because of my gender every woman has to submit to me.

In my experience a lot of the “Doms” running through SL are not into BDSM. Being a “Dom” for them means the women in SL are a free buffet for their sexual needs. And that’s not what BDSM is about. In a D/s relationship both gain pleasure out of it. And truthfully the person holding all the power is the one giving away control, because he/she can take it away any time .

Agreed. I like that side of it, I have fun with having that power exchange when a guy submits, but it’s not everything. Good sex, heightened arousal and just that exchange of energy is just as fun if not more. It just seems that recently more and more guys are showing that they need to have that power.

Some of the best sex I’ve had has been where there is no power exchange and it’s just great sex. I can’t understand the mindset of those that don’t know how to enjoy that.

Yeah… I honestly just can’t relate to that mindset at all. Sex is a mutual activity–a friend said to me last year, “It’s the most intense thing you can do with another person,” and that has stuck–and that whole dominance dynamic (or at least that kind of expression of it, where it’s assumed that’s what sex should be whether the woman is interested in it or not) feels like a rejection of its mutual nature that replaces it with sex being all and only about the man’s power and the man’s pleasure. And in addition to the potential of that to be really harmful…they’re missing out on the energies of mutual pleasure. Missing out on how much more your pleasure is when your partner’s pleasure is heightened. 🤷‍♀️